Stop Trying To Be Authentic (The Real You Might Not Exist Anyway)

In the world of personal and leadership development, the notion of authenticity takes centre stage. We are encouraged to be true to ourselves, to find our authentic selves, and to live in alignment with our core being.  

But what if the pursuit of a singular, "authentic" self is, in fact, limiting your potential for growth? 

The Illusion of a Singular, Unchanging Self

The concept of an authentic self implies a static identity, a core essence that remains unchanged throughout life.  But as far back as 2500 years ago, Confucius, the Chinese philosopher, when speaking of the importance of self-cultivation and moral development, claimed that our identity is constantly shaped by our actions and interactions with others.  Fast forward to the 20th century, and Carl Rogers, a pioneer in humanistic psychology, spoke about the fluidity of the self and the continuous process of what he called 'becoming'.  Rogers argued that acknowledging the multiplicity of facets within us is essential for genuine personal development. 

Fixed vs. Growth Mindset

Believing in a single, unchanging authentic self can inadvertently place constraints on personal growth. It implies that there's a predetermined version of ourselves we must uncover and adhere to, limiting our adaptability to new circumstances and hindering our ability to embrace change.  

So the idea of a single, authentic self can inadvertently result a fixed mindset—a belief that your abilities, intelligence, and personalities are static traits. In contrast, a growth mindset, as proposed by psychologist Carol Dweck, recognizes that these aspects are malleable and can be developed through learning and experience. 

Shifting from a fixed to a growth mindset liberates us from the confines of a singular authentic self. It allows us to explore new interests, develop different skills, and adapt to changing circumstances without the fear of deviating from our "true" selves. 

Embrace the Complexity of Identity 

Each role we play, every experience we encounter, contributes to the evolution of who we are. So rather than striving for a singular authentic self, consider embracing the multitude of roles and identities within you. The professional, the friend, the learner— each role contributes to the richness of your being. 

Take the Next Step 

Ready to explore these transformative ideas further? Consider partnering with a trained executive or leadership coach who can guide you on your journey to fulfilling your potential in all areas of your life.   Message me here for more information or at Neil@thewholehuman.co.uk.